Close to the bone

Close to the bone As a healer, people hire me to help them see their blind spots. I am paid to be detached. A detached being has potential to comprehend completely and understand the complex mysteries behind all relationships. There is no emotional whirlwind to get...

Loving from the lifeboat

Loving from the lifeboat Many of us are finding ourselves on lifeboats. Our past ships have sunk, burned, or been hijacked. We are sailing away, happy to have made it out ok, healing and resting before we start building the next ship. Some of us need a long time on...

The gift of service love

The gift of service love Service love is the love between a caretaker and the cared for. This love happens when there are extreme imbalances between the partners. With alcoholics, addicts, handicapped, abused, and narcissist partners. There is a love you give but you...

A new kind of love

A new kind of love Transformation is a word we have become numb to. It slipped into our vocabulary in the 60’s and 70’s, and now it almost has no meaning. We hear “transform yourself” every day. In advertising new fitness routines, to food, to clothing, to phones. And...

Our privilege

Our Privilege It is a privilege to feel the kind of fear that comes with doing deep dives into yourself. I have had other people hold the space for me to truly feel my anger and fear. Somehow, I mustered up the courage to let it come through. And as terrible as it...

Suffering

Suffering We have all asked the “Why me?” question before. Why me and not someone else? Why did I have to experience this? Why am I so unfortunate or so lucky? I know many healers and psychics who are quick to answer these questions. It’s because in a past life you...

Flowering

Flowering We are capable of flowering – of reaching a florescent state. Of opening up wide – blooming. Of forever bursting with creative potential and possibility in every direction.  A flowering state is one of complete availability. And we have the potential...

Attachment

Attachment Many people hear the word attachment and are immediately turned off – in the spiritual world detachment can lead people into many extremes, from vows of poverty, to celibacy, to fasting and back again. When we talk about cultivating a grounded spiritual...

Bad Thinking

Bad Thinking Bad thinking creates disease. If your thinking is not high functioning enough to keep you healthy, you will become sick. We want a certain quality of love, wealth and fulfillment and we need high quality perceptions to hold that space for ourselves. Much...

Hunger

Hunger Often, there was poison in the pocket of his hand. And if it didn’t kill him outright in a hotel room somewhere, it would deepen into his life, until it poisoned every breathing second of it. I believed he cared…about himself, or me…anyone. But he always wanted...